Document everything.
Keep accurate notes and records. The process of documentation
for bullying incidents is a parental responsibility that only
ends when your child is no longer in your home. You must keep
meticulous records, just as if you are the attorney representing
your child. Ask you child to do the same. If you want to make
it a fun exercise - grab a long handled spoon and
pronounce on
your child, "I now dub you a special junior attorney." Empower
your child. Who knows, they may even become an attorney some
day, or find a profession that utilizes such skills.
Conduct an
interview with your child and then write down a synopsis in
bullet points. If there were witnesses to the bullying, get
their statements and get signatures on those statements in front
of an adult if they are a minor. Do not forget to add dates,
names, times and all the who, what, when, where and why
information you can find. Write down any comments made by
administrators or teachers. These written notes may not seem
like much at the time, but later, they may be a deciding point
for justice in your child's favor. These records may aid in
procedural changes that could dramatically reduce bullying in
your school, and of your child.
Here is an example:
"In our case, I got the information from Jared, as well as some
witnesses, but I didn't write all of it down. Consequently, I
had to remember many of the details later, during interrogations
and depositions. However, there was one comment by a
Vice-Principal that I did write down, which came in handy
later. When I asked the VP if he allows violent children to
wander his halls stalking prey, particularly the bully who beat
Jared up, he replied, "He's not that bad now, you should have
seen him before he came to the middle school." That comment
told me that this bully had a record of bullying other children,
and the school knew it. That was valuable information. I was
also able to do a lot more investigating because of that one
comment."
